There are still many people who think feminism is about hating men
That isn’t feminism
I don’t hate men
I hate the patriarchy
I hate the wage gap
I hate that as a 14 year old girl,
I am told its my fault when forty year older men stare at me
I hate that many girls feel the need to fight…
repeat after me:
- virginity is a social construct
- you don’t lose your virginity
- there’s nothing valuable or precious about virginity, it’s an imaginary concept
- virginity is inherently heterocentric
- your worth is not defined by whether or not you’ve had a dick inside you
- what you define as sex is up to you, you get to decide how many people you’ve had sex with
- the end
Anonymous said: I'm going to school in the fall and majoring in social work! Do you have any tips or advice about schoolwork/internships/volunteering? I struggled a lot in highschool and i'm afraid I wont do good :(
1. Go with an open mind. I am not going to assume how you identify racially, but many white people in social work get very surprised at the cultural competency training. There can be a lot of defensiveness. Be open to learning things you don’t know yet. You will understand a lot more that way.
2. Speak up in your classes. This will help the teachers remember who you are. This will help you build relationships with your professors and your classmates. You will learn more. Classes won’t be so boring if you are engaged. Don’t be scared to be wrong. You are in school because you don’t know everything, it’s ok to be corrected.
3. When you get accepted into your social work program, usually after your core classes are completed, start a group page on facebook for your cohort, the people who are on the same track to graduate with you. You can discuss assignments, solve problems, and build connections this way. You can even share notes when you guys are too busy to read everything. Split it up and share the notes of the chapters with each other.
4. Read the texts as often as possible. You will be better informed and understand the discussions better.
4. Be aware of current events. Watch the news. Be politically aware of what’s going on. This will help you in policy classes, as well as life.
5. My program let us decide on our own internship. Some programs place you how they want to. If you get to pick your own internship be picky. Know what you want to get out of the internship and ask questions during the interview.
6. Self-care. You will hear that a lot, and it’s important. You will hear and learn about some hard things emotionally. Find something that works for you to relieve the stress. Take mental health days if you have to.
7. Be prepared to analyze yourself, your upbringing, your family culture, everything.
8. Join social work organizations. Do social work things outside of the classroom. Volunteer somewhere if you don’t work in a social work type setting, because once you graduate EVERYONE wants experience, and it will make what is taught in the classrooms more understandable.
9. Group work sucks. Be prepared. There is no avoiding group papers and group projects in social work and it’s basically awful.
Honestly, social work teachers grade on a different kind of scale than other professors. Show that you are learning with your papers and your comments, that is more important than your grades. Almost everyone in my classes made As in their social work classes, no matter their academic levels. If you do the work and show you are trying you will be fine. If you are struggling, do not be afraid to take advantage of your professors office hours. More importantly do the work on yourself you need to do in order to grow.
You will do great. If you ever have any specific questions just inbox me and I’ll answer to the best of my ability. I had an amazing experience in my BSW, and my Grad school, despite the group work. I hope you have the same.
Great advice for aspiring social workers
Sometimes I look back at the beginning of this journey and who I used to be and I can’t even recognize that old me. Some people go to grad school for better employment opportunities, I did too, others go because they don’t know what else to do, and still many go to further their education in a subject they are interested in. When I began this journey I was blind…not to sound too cliche but now I can see.
I read about our society on a daily basis and constantly ask how I will go about changing this. I question everything. I am curious about everything. I still can’t get enough of social justice and feminism. That cup will never be filled.
This last semester my thesis partner and I discussed how we would stay involved with full time employment and we vowed to never give up. What I have found is how difficult this is in reality, yet I won’t stop trying. Everyday I go to my social work job and find new reasons to fight. When I get home I’m exhausted and all I want to do is be lazy. That laziness has turned in to an everyday routine.
I wanted to start again…so I began looking around in my community for opportunities and found little. Life after grad school so far has been so different than I imagined but I know I will continue the fight. No opportunities? I’m going to make them. Our society is flawed, and they people this effects the most barely have the energy to survive let alone fight. So despite the feelings of tiredness I will go on. Because I my “self-care” is to be involved. I’ve found what helps me the most to continue doing this work is to help in a micro way on a daily basis….and fight at a macro level in my free time.
For those still in grad school make the most of your time. Get involved. Become more macro. Anyone can do micro work but it takes a strong individual to fight globally. Because change is slow and we may never see it in our life time. But one thing is for sure. With the hobby lobby ruling, the class warfare, and the struggles we face with racism and sexism, nothing will change as long as we sit back and do nothing but read about it.
White American males constitute only 33% of the population. Yet, they occupy approximately:
- 80% of tenured positions in higher education
- 80% of the House of Representatives
- 80-85% of the U.S. Senate
- 92%of Forbes 400 executive CEO-level positions
- 90% of athletic team owners
- 97.7% of U.S. presidents
^For all who claim we live in a post-racial, equal-gendered society.